Is worry crippling your life and you want to get control of it?
Did you know that 97% of the things you worry about don’t even happen?
The media screams tragic headlines at us daily, and our medical services are stretched with people suffering all manner of ailments, and yet we live in a time when we’ve never had it so good….yet we still worry.
Worry can leave you feeling weak, drained and sometimes physically sick.
You worry when faced with change, uncertainty or have a lack of know-how or experience.
Maybe you have no influence or control over a situation or afraid of being given bad news.
Here’s five simple steps to ease the pressure you are putting yourself under.
1. Take a step back and think rationally.
Think about whether your worry is based on something historical, hysterical or helpful.
Write down your worries to help bring perspective to the situation and reduce any fuzziness.
Ask yourself on a scale of 1 to 10 what level is your worry at (10 being crisis critical) and will it be important to you in 3 months’ time.
2. Decide on your type of worry.
Is its useless worry?
That is a situation that you are powerless to do anything about, for example, the world might end tomorrow.
There is nothing you can do about this, all that happens is you become more stressed and find your anxiety builds up.
This will stop you from leading a fulfilled and complete life. Accept that you cannot change things that are beyond your control.
Is it useful worry?
This is where you have some control. If you have been told you will be made redundant at the end of the month you might not be able to change your employers mind, but there are actions you can take straight away.
3. Use worry to motivate yourself.
If your worry is “useful” then use this to motivate yourself in to action and take any preventative measures.
You could start to update your CV, register with employment agencies, look for vacancies on-line, think about any new skills you might want to be trained in.
These are all positive steps that you can take, making sure you are in control of your life, not someone else.
Instead of letting things churn away inside, think about what influence you have over the situation.
4. Use your imagination.
We are using our imaginations all of the time.
Use the power of visualisation to creatively imagine yourself having achieved your desired outcome.
Try it now! Close your eyes and imagine you have already successful achieved what you want, see the picture in colour and make it bright and vibrant, and if there are any sounds turn them up.
If there are other people in the picture hear what they are saying to you.
This exercise is like giving your brain a preview of what you are working towards and so your subconscious mind will focus on this the more you think of your picture.
5. Be kind to yourself.
An Aston Martin owner would use the best fuel, check the oil regularly and have it serviced annually, not to mention how frequently you would wash and polish the car.
So why would you not look after yourself in the same way.
- Start by changing the way you talk to yourself. Instead of saying I can’t, I won’t, use positive affirmations like I will, I can and I want to.
- Talk to others about how you are feeling as there is no shame in asking others for help and support.
- Get some exercise – this is a good way of increasing your happy hormones and will help to clear your head.
- If you are holding any grudges – ask yourself what they are doing for you. Let them go as there are no advantages to holding on to them.
Stop worrying about what can go wrong and get excited about what can go well and enjoy leading a life that YOU are in control of.
If you are struggling to achieve a fulfilled life of less worry and need some help call Helen Dos Santos on 07730 920010 or email email@example.com to arrange a free, no obligation consultation.