Is worry crippling your life and you want to get control of it?

Did you know that 97% of the things you worry about don’t even happen?

The media screams tragic headlines at us daily, and our medical services are stretched with people suffering all manner of ailments, and yet we live in a time when we’ve never had it so good….yet we still worry.

Worry can leave you feeling weak, drained and sometimes physically sick.

You worry when faced with change, uncertainty or have a lack of know-how or experience.

Maybe you have no influence or control over a situation or afraid of being given bad news.

Here’s five simple steps to ease the pressure you are putting yourself under.

1.  Take a step back and think rationally.

Think about whether your worry is based on something historical, hysterical or helpful.

Write down your worries to help bring perspective to the situation and reduce any fuzziness.

Ask yourself on a scale of 1 to 10 what level is your worry at (10 being crisis critical) and will it be important to you in 3 months’ time.

2. Decide on your type of worry.

Is its useless worry?

That is a situation that you are powerless to do anything about, for example, the world might end tomorrow.

There is nothing you can do about this, all that happens is you become more stressed and find your anxiety builds up.

This will stop you from leading a fulfilled and complete life. Accept that you cannot change things that are beyond your control.

Is it useful worry?

This is where you have some control. If you have been told you will be made redundant at the end of the month you might not be able to change your employers mind, but there are actions you can take straight away.

 3.  Use worry to motivate yourself.

If your worry is “useful” then use this to motivate yourself in to action and take any preventative measures.

You could start to update your CV, register with employment agencies, look for vacancies on-line, think about any new skills you might want to be trained in.

These are all positive steps that you can take, making sure you are in control of your life, not someone else.

Instead of letting things churn away inside, think about what influence you have over the situation.

4. Use your imagination.

We are using our imaginations all of the time.

Use the power of visualisation to creatively imagine yourself having achieved your desired outcome.

Try it now! Close your eyes and imagine you have already successful achieved what you want, see the picture in colour and make it bright and vibrant, and if there are any sounds turn them up.

If there are other people in the picture hear what they are saying to you.

This exercise is like giving your brain a preview of what you are working towards and so your subconscious mind will focus on this the more you think of your picture.

5.  Be kind to yourself.

An Aston Martin owner would use the best fuel, check the oil regularly and have it serviced annually, not to mention how frequently you would wash and polish the car.

So why would you not look after yourself in the same way.

  • Start by changing the way you talk to yourself. Instead of saying I can’t, I won’t, use positive affirmations like I will, I can and I want to.
  • Talk to others about how you are feeling as there is no shame in asking others for help and support.
  • Get some exercise – this is a good way of increasing your happy hormones and will help to clear your head.
  • If you are holding any grudges – ask yourself what they are doing for you. Let them go as there are no advantages to holding on to them.

Stop worrying about what can go wrong and get excited about what can go well and enjoy leading a life that YOU are in control of.

If you are struggling to achieve a fulfilled life of less worry and need some help call Helen Dos Santos on 07730 920010 or email helen@horizonscoaching.co.uk to arrange a free, no obligation consultation.





MAD (Making A Difference) about Mental Health at work

This session is targeted at Senior Leaders, Managers & Team Supervisors, in fact anyone with responsibility for staff.    Through this session we explore why mental health is important, and gain awareness of the impact on an individual suffering with mental health issues.  Managers will feel more confident about how to start a conversation and what they can say, how to say it and what NOT to say. 

Press Pause, Live Well.

Recognise what causes us to feel stressed and learn more about the signs and symptoms to understand the impact on our health.   Gain self-help tips to manage stress in order to achieve a greater balance in life.  Develop an awareness of Havening Techniques® to relax and build longer lasting resilience.

How to achieve a calmer life & cope with challenges.

Explore what hinders us from feeling calm and why, and gain an insight into the 4 C’s of mental wealth, Chaos, Control, Choice & Calm.   Gain a true understanding of the benefits of remaining calm.  Learn self-help techniques and top tips to achieve a sense of calm in your life and address challenges in a positive manner.

Positively Manage Worr-ease

Did you know 97% of what we worry about never even happens?  Consider the negative affects fear and worry have on us emotionally and mentally, as well as identify types of worry.   Learn new strategies to manage our worrying thoughts in an empowering way, along with controlling some of our self-talk to enable us to feel positive.

Sleep Well, Feel Great.

On average we spend 33 years in bed – but how much of that is good quality sleep?  The benefits of sleeping well ensure greater concentration and focus, high energy levels and improved health.  Gain an understanding of the science of sleep, what cause disruption to our sleep pattern and gain strategies to promote a better quality sleep.   Finish off with a short guided mindfulness session.

Spring Clean Your Thinking

Explore how our negative thinking impacts on us in this fun session.  Discover ways of demolishing and re-setting some of our old thinking patterns which may no longer serve us any purpose.  Achieve more confidence and empowerment by making some simple changes to our thought process

Manage Your Emotions

Based on The Sedona Method, learn a unique way for making positive changes and gain an insight to the simple process of releasing underlying emotions that hold you back.  Become a master of your mind and emotions, then develop the art of the “release technique” or letting go.  Simple, fast & effective in order to achieve calmness. 

Less Stress, More Success

Do you find there are not enough hours in the day, frustrated that we never get to the bottom of our ‘To Do’ list?  With 80% of employees feeling stressed at work, explore and recognise the causes of stress.  Gain take-away tools to improve your time management skills, plan your day with ease and learn how and when to say No!

Dreams do come True

Ever wondered why 92% of people do not achieve their goals?  Join the 8% that are achievers by exploring, in this fun session, how goals can be achieved through combining various Neuro Linguistic Programming techniques in goal setting accompanied with visualisation and the creation of a Vision Board.  All of which will get you what you want in life.

The Impact of Words – Mind Your Language!

Our language holds massive power to manifest change. Words can either be empowering and encouraging or destructive and damaging.  Gain a deeper understanding of just how powerful our “language” is and the impact of the words we use with our self-talk and when speaking to others.   With an understanding of the latest neuroscience delegates will learn techniques that will help them get the best out of themselves as well as build engaging and positive relationships with others.

The Power of Visualisation

Visualisation – seeing the goal as already complete in your mind’s eye – is a core technique used by the world’s most successful people. Visualisation is effective because it harnesses the power of our subconscious mind, activating the creative powers of the subconscious mind, motivating it to work harder at creating solutions. You’ll also notice new levels of motivation and find yourself doing things that normally you would avoid, but that will take you closer to success.

I’m Possible verses Impossible

Beliefs are nothing more than a thought – often holding us back.  This belief change session provides 6 simple steps to greater self- fulfilment and success.  Our beliefs can either destroy or enrich our life.  Unhelpful beliefs hinder our ability to achieve our desires and goals.  These simple steps help you tap into your resourcefulness, to shine and flourish in life.

Digital Detox

Are we losing our ability to know who we are and what’s important to us?  Understand the addictive affects over exposure to the digital world has on our health, and explore techniques to make better choices in managing information overload.  Make smart choices that enable us to take control of our lives in a healthier way.

Pause & Relax

Say thank you to your staff and give them an hour to experience and learn anti-stress & relaxation techniques.  Understand the importance of taking time out for ourselves, still the mind, relax the body and learn how this can be achieved through breathe work, visualisation, Havening Techniques® and guided mindfulness.  All of which can be self-applied after the session and have great health benefits.

Mindfulness – a mental spa break

Experience a half hour guided mindfulness session to still the traffic in our minds.  This ancient practise is known to improve sleep, relieve stress and regulate our emotions.   It also increases mental clarity, improves concentration and boosts our working memory.  Along with smoothing gentle music this session creates and promotes a sense of wellbeing.

Powerful Thinking Everyday

Gain an awareness of our most powerful tool in the world – our brain.  Learn the difference between the conscious and the subconscious mind, how to unlock the brain’s hidden power and how use this to our advantage.   Not only will this assist in encouraging more positive thinking, you will can more focus and reduce stress.