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Service leavers

Everyone leaves the Armed Forces at some point and there is talk of the ‘3 Stages of Change’. Stage 1 – Facing up to the inevitability of change, Stage 2 – Breaking with the old life (mental and emotional adjustment), and Stage 3 – Building and committing to a new life.

I am here to help you transition through Stage 2 – the mental and emotional adjustment from military life to your new civilian life. You may experience a feeling of disconnect and isolation from your unit team colleagues. Isolation can lead to feelings of despair and these consequences can be significant. Whether you are experiencing PTSD symptoms through to just worrying about life outside of the military – I can help you.

Veterans’ mental health problems may be made worse or caused by post-service factors, such as the difficulty in making the transition to civilian life, marital problems, and loss of family and familiar social support networks. Younger veterans are at high risk of suicide in the first two years after leaving service. Ex-service personnel are also vulnerable to social exclusion and homelessness, both of which are risk factors for mental ill-health. Alcohol misuse is also high and nearly 3000 leavers per year find themselves in the justice system.

You may experience anxiety and a sense of urgency to find a new job which may have as much to do with an emotional sense of belonging as well as the need to secure a steady income. The civil-military cultural gap is so wide that returning to the civilian world is like traveling to a foreign country. People don’t speak your ‘language’. The traditions and social structure are different. 

All this can lead to emotional and mental issues such as lack of self-confidence, low levels of self-belief and worthlessness, anxiety, and depression – generally feeling lost with no sense of purpose. This can impact on sleep quality, being irritable with loved ones with a possible temptation to turn to alcohol for comfort.

"Even after an initial phone call with Helen it felt like a weight had started to lift, and that there was someone who understood when I explained how I felt."

An event happened in my life which spiralled me into a deep and dark depression. After being an extrovert, self assured and confident in my abilities my whole life, I found my self very introverted and questioning everything as nothing seemed real anymore. Prior to attending a breakthrough day I really didn’t think there was any clear way forward, I was at the lowest point in my life. I had been through a lot of forced and difficult changes in a relatively short time and subsequently diagnosed with depression and anxiety. Even after an initial phone call with Helen it felt like a weight had started to lift, and that there was someone who understood when I explained how I felt. Well meaning friends can only offer so much, but with Helen it was different.

After my initial consultation I decided on the breakthrough day as I believed it was the best option for my circumstances, I had felt low for so long I was afraid of what I might do. The breakthrough day was the best decision I had made. After discussing everything in depth with Helen and learning to use the tools she taught me to tackle a recurring theme in my head, I felt so much better. Initially I was unsure, but after a nights rest, subconsciously something had shifted in my mind and I felt so much more relaxed and able to cope. This then enabled me to start moving forward and accepting things.

I am now in so much more of a better place. I have made certain changes in my life which are the result of talking things through with Helen. I am now much more of the person I used to be. Before the breakthrough day I had lost 2 stone in weight and could not sleep. I am now back to my normal weight and back into a fitness regime. Prior to seeing Helen I would have probably been very sceptical about all of this, but when you are at rock bottom you will try anything. It certainly worked for me and has given me a new found respect for the power of the mind. I cannot recommend Helen enough for all that she has done for me.

Ian (ex-military)
MAD (Making A Difference) about Mental Health at work

This session is targeted at Senior Leaders, Managers & Team Supervisors, in fact anyone with responsibility for staff.    Through this session we explore why mental health is important, and gain awareness of the impact on an individual suffering with mental health issues.  Managers will feel more confident about how to start a conversation and what they can say, how to say it and what NOT to say. 

Press Pause, Live Well.

Recognise what causes us to feel stressed and learn more about the signs and symptoms to understand the impact on our health.   Gain self-help tips to manage stress in order to achieve a greater balance in life.  Develop an awareness of Havening Techniques® to relax and build longer lasting resilience.

How to achieve a calmer life & cope with challenges.

Explore what hinders us from feeling calm and why, and gain an insight into the 4 C’s of mental wealth, Chaos, Control, Choice & Calm.   Gain a true understanding of the benefits of remaining calm.  Learn self-help techniques and top tips to achieve a sense of calm in your life and address challenges in a positive manner.

Positively Manage Worr-ease

Did you know 97% of what we worry about never even happens?  Consider the negative affects fear and worry have on us emotionally and mentally, as well as identify types of worry.   Learn new strategies to manage our worrying thoughts in an empowering way, along with controlling some of our self-talk to enable us to feel positive.

Sleep Well, Feel Great.

On average we spend 33 years in bed – but how much of that is good quality sleep?  The benefits of sleeping well ensure greater concentration and focus, high energy levels and improved health.  Gain an understanding of the science of sleep, what cause disruption to our sleep pattern and gain strategies to promote a better quality sleep.   Finish off with a short guided mindfulness session.

Spring Clean Your Thinking

Explore how our negative thinking impacts on us in this fun session.  Discover ways of demolishing and re-setting some of our old thinking patterns which may no longer serve us any purpose.  Achieve more confidence and empowerment by making some simple changes to our thought process

Manage Your Emotions

Based on The Sedona Method, learn a unique way for making positive changes and gain an insight to the simple process of releasing underlying emotions that hold you back.  Become a master of your mind and emotions, then develop the art of the “release technique” or letting go.  Simple, fast & effective in order to achieve calmness. 

Less Stress, More Success

Do you find there are not enough hours in the day, frustrated that we never get to the bottom of our ‘To Do’ list?  With 80% of employees feeling stressed at work, explore and recognise the causes of stress.  Gain take-away tools to improve your time management skills, plan your day with ease and learn how and when to say No!

Dreams do come True

Ever wondered why 92% of people do not achieve their goals?  Join the 8% that are achievers by exploring, in this fun session, how goals can be achieved through combining various Neuro Linguistic Programming techniques in goal setting accompanied with visualisation and the creation of a Vision Board.  All of which will get you what you want in life.

The Impact of Words – Mind Your Language!

Our language holds massive power to manifest change. Words can either be empowering and encouraging or destructive and damaging.  Gain a deeper understanding of just how powerful our “language” is and the impact of the words we use with our self-talk and when speaking to others.   With an understanding of the latest neuroscience delegates will learn techniques that will help them get the best out of themselves as well as build engaging and positive relationships with others.

The Power of Visualisation

Visualisation – seeing the goal as already complete in your mind’s eye – is a core technique used by the world’s most successful people. Visualisation is effective because it harnesses the power of our subconscious mind, activating the creative powers of the subconscious mind, motivating it to work harder at creating solutions. You’ll also notice new levels of motivation and find yourself doing things that normally you would avoid, but that will take you closer to success.

I’m Possible verses Impossible

Beliefs are nothing more than a thought – often holding us back.  This belief change session provides 6 simple steps to greater self- fulfilment and success.  Our beliefs can either destroy or enrich our life.  Unhelpful beliefs hinder our ability to achieve our desires and goals.  These simple steps help you tap into your resourcefulness, to shine and flourish in life.

Digital Detox

Are we losing our ability to know who we are and what’s important to us?  Understand the addictive affects over exposure to the digital world has on our health, and explore techniques to make better choices in managing information overload.  Make smart choices that enable us to take control of our lives in a healthier way.

Pause & Relax

Say thank you to your staff and give them an hour to experience and learn anti-stress & relaxation techniques.  Understand the importance of taking time out for ourselves, still the mind, relax the body and learn how this can be achieved through breathe work, visualisation, Havening Techniques® and guided mindfulness.  All of which can be self-applied after the session and have great health benefits.

Mindfulness – a mental spa break

Experience a half hour guided mindfulness session to still the traffic in our minds.  This ancient practise is known to improve sleep, relieve stress and regulate our emotions.   It also increases mental clarity, improves concentration and boosts our working memory.  Along with smoothing gentle music this session creates and promotes a sense of wellbeing.

Powerful Thinking Everyday

Gain an awareness of our most powerful tool in the world – our brain.  Learn the difference between the conscious and the subconscious mind, how to unlock the brain’s hidden power and how use this to our advantage.   Not only will this assist in encouraging more positive thinking, you will can more focus and reduce stress.